The truth has many sides, and Brad Pitt is finally ready to share his.
It’s been eight months since Angelina Jolie filed for divorce to end their two-year marriage and 12-year relationship. Clearly, Pitt is ready to discuss how things unraveled and spiraled out of control so quickly. In an in-depth interview with GQ Style, the actor owns up to his shortcomings and how his personal decisions contributed to the breakdown of the life he once knew.
“You know, I just started therapy. I love it, I love it. I went through two therapists to get to the right one,” Pitt explained. “I was really on my back and chained to a system when Child Services was called. And you know, after that, we've been able to work together to sort this out. We're both doing our best. I heard one lawyer say, ‘No one wins in court—it's just a matter of who gets hurt worse.’ And it seems to be true, you spend a year just focused on building a case to prove your point and why you're right and why they're wrong, and it's just an investment in vitriolic hatred. I just refuse. And fortunately my partner in this agrees. It's just very, very jarring for the kids, to suddenly have their family ripped apart.”
Fortunately, both Jolie and Pitt have managed to work on their relationship for the sake of their six children. Part of that decision involved handling their divorce with greater care and delicacy.
“Well, there's a lot to tell them because there's understanding the future, there's understanding the immediate moment and why we're at this point, and then it brings up a lot of issues from the past that we haven't talked about,” Pitt added. “So our focus is that everyone comes out stronger and better people—there is no other outcome.”
Still, the decision to divorce was not easy, and Pitt admitted to wanting to hold onto his relationship with Jolie. “The first urge is to cling on,” he said. “And then you've got a cliché: ‘If you love someone, set them free.’ Now I know what it means, by feeling it. It means to love without ownership. It means expecting nothing in return. But it sounds good written. It sounds good when Sting sings it,” said Pitt.
Pitt also delved into his past and explained how he coped with his feelings by relying on other substances. “I can't remember a day since I got out of college when I wasn't boozing or had a spliff, or something,” he said. “Something. And you realize that a lot of it is, um—cigarettes, you know, pacifiers. And I'm running from feelings. I'm really, really happy to be done with all of that. I mean I stopped everything except boozing when I started my family. But even this last year, you know—things I wasn't dealing with. I was boozing too much. It's just become a problem,” Pitt admitted.
“And I'm really happy it's been half a year now, which is bittersweet, but I've got my feelings in my fingertips again. I think that's part of the human challenge: You either deny them all of your life or you answer them and evolve,” elaborated Pitt.
This new transition in Pitt’s life has been about figuring out the root issues and rebuilding the foundation. “For me this period has really been about looking at my weaknesses and failures and owning my side of the street,” he explained.
In fact, Pitt believes if he writes his own history, then he won’t have to worry about protecting the narrative. Perhaps that why he decided to spill the his side of the truth in a very public manner.
What do you think of Pitt’s revelations about his divorce and drinking? Are you surprised by his decision to open up? Hit the comments to dish and discuss.